To my knowledge, every human being has been involved in an argument at one time or another. Arguments are part of relationships. They can help bring about a healthy progression towards a constructive decision. They can also lead to a destructive form of unacceptable behavior. Whether you argue with your spouse, parents, children, boss, co-workers or friends, it is important to argue effectively and not fall into any bad behavior traps. Learning to control emotions and words are very important in constructive arguing.
A good arguer is one that respects another persons beliefs, while arguing for their own. They are also able to argue constructively and without raising their voice and exposing their emotions. Some people feel that showing emotion is healthy and adds impact to their reason for arguing. Knowing how far to go is very important for the critical arguer.
The trap, that most individuals fall into, is letting their emotions get carried away. These emotions can lead to false accusations and actions that they will regret later. Destructive fights can lead to unproductive relationships and poor major decisions. They can be hurtful and lead to defensiveness, as well as resentment. It can hurt both parties involved.
Many times, it is good to get things out, before they start building up on the inside. A healthy relationship has room for social confrontation and constructive criticism. This type of arguing can lead to constructive agreements and can eventually strengthen relationships. Learning to work out inner conflicts is very important in successful relationships.
In personal relationships, problems are worked out, partners get past their defensiveness, old wounds heal, individuals get over their insecurities, and individuals begin to work as a couple.
Where do you fall in, when it comes to successful and constructive arguing? To find out if you are an effective arguer, you can take the Discovery Health test for arguing.
(This is not my writing. I copied excerpts from an article at http://www.associatedcontent.com/article/1707093/is_arguing_a_healthy_way_of_expression_pg2.html?cat=41. You can read the article in its entirety at the preceding link.)
I believe its ok to argue and that sometimes i argue more than i should but sometimes when i believe in something so strongly i forget to look from the other person's point of view. i believe it is important to learn from our mistakes to make us better and that way we can learn to listem to both sides of the story because once people hear someones side of the argument the way they thought could change.
ReplyDeleteI think that arging is an important part of life, I'm personally not the best at it but it helps you by learning from what you've done and brings you closer to people in the end. As long as you can control your attitude and argue in a mature matter, arguing can be a healthy part in a relationship.
ReplyDeleteI believe that it is okay to argue, but there is a time and a place to do that. To much arguing gets on my nerves, but i also respect people when they speak their minds and their opinions. If you can argue in a good manner, it could be good for you.
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